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Here are the 45 senators who voted against background checks and their contact forms

imagePhoto by Jonathan Ernst/Reuters

Yesterday, Obama and Gabby Giffords told me to contact my representatives to be the change, but my representatives are smart people with normal sized hearts. So the only thing I can really do is contact YOUR representatives to add volume to their inboxes. I compiled a list of all the senators who voted “no” to the Manchin-Toomey compromise and their contact info (I couldn’t find this already online). I also wrote a letter (below) and am sending it to each of these douchebags individually. I encourage you to write one and do the same.

*Update: Key senators as pinpointed by the Brady Campaign are in bold. I assume they’re pinpointed because they’re more spineless than they are perverse. Brady has provided phone numbers and the Huffington post has provided Twitter handles

1.            Sen. Lamar Alexander (R-TN)
2.            Sen. Kelly Ayotte (R-NH)
3.            Sen. John Barrasso (R-WY)
4.            Sen. Max Baucus (D-MT)
5.            Sen. Mark Begich (D-AK)
6.            Sen. Roy Blunt (R-MO)
7.            Sen. John Boozman (R-AR)
8.            Sen. Richard Burr (R-NC)
9.            Sen. Saxby Chambliss (R-GA)
10.          Sen. Dan Coats (R-IN)
11.          Sen. Tom Coburn (R-OK)
12.          Sen. Thad Cochran (R-MS)
13.          Sen. Bob Corker (R-TN)
14.          Sen. John Cornyn (R-TX)
15.          Sen. Michael Crapo (R-ID)
16.          Sen. Ted Cruz (R-TX)
17.          Sen. Mike Enzi (R-WY)
18.          Sen. Deb Fischer (R-NE)
19.          Sen. Jeff Flake (R-AZ)
20.          Sen. Lindsey Graham (R-SC)
21.          Sen. Charles Grassley (R-IA)
22.          Sen. Orrin Hatch (R-UT)
23.          Sen. Heidi Heitkamp (D-ND)
24.          Sen. Dean Heller (R-NV)
25.          Sen. John Hoeven (R-ND)
26.          Sen. James Inhofe (R-OK)
27.          Sen. Johnny Isakson (R-GA)
28.          Sen. Mike Johanns (R-NE)
29.          Sen. Ron Johnson (R-WI)
30.          Sen. Mike Lee (R-UT)
31.          Sen. Mitch McConnell (R-KY)
32.          Sen. Jerry Moran (R-KS)
33.          Sen. Lisa Murkowski (R-AK)
34.          Sen. Rand Paul (R-KY)
35.          Sen. Rob Portman (R-OH)
36.          Sen. Mark Pryor (D-AR)
37.          Sen. James Risch (R-ID)
38.          Sen. Pat Roberts (R-KS)
39.          Sen. Marco Rubio (R-FL)
40.          Sen. Tim Scott (R-SC)
41.          Sen. Jeff Sessions (R-AL)
42.          Sen. Richard Shelby (R-AL)
43.          Sen. John Thune (R-SD)
44.          Sen. David Vitter (R-LA)
45.          Sen. Roger Wicker (R-MS)

Some more wimps to contact:
These are the direct email addresses of each “no” democratic senator’s Chief of Staff.

1.           andy_york@pryor.senate.gov (Senator Pryor)
2.           david_Ramseur@begich.senate.gov (Senator Begich)
3.           paul_wilkins@baucus.senate.gov (Senator Baucus)
4.           tessa_gould@heitkamp.senate.gov (Senator Heitkamp)

My letter. Write your own! Or use mine, whatever, we want volume:

Senator ____,

You don’t know me, but you represent me, and I want you to know that this week I lost all of my faith in you and in the system that is supposed to protect me. Your vote was selfish, it was cowardly, and it was small. It was cold-hearted. By slipping a self-serving vote under the rug with a few excuses, you are placing these very real problems outside of yourself. Do you think no one’s watching? Your inbox may suggest that we are. Do you think no one feels betrayed, horrified, and unsafe? I can assure you that we all do. More people will die because of your vote. You cannot wash your hands of that.

You, at the core, are a representative. A representative is a leader that reaches out to her community to ascertain their desires in order to best advocate for them. I can assure you that unless you get your act together and show that you are doing your job to represent the desires, the best interests, and above all the safety of your constituents, you will have completely lost the support of your state.

Lilah

The movie Smyrna was reviewed last week in the NY Times (here) and will be the focus of special upcoming events (Facebook event is here). The filmmaker, Maria Iliou, and her team found footage of the city burning and in its prime that no one knew existed, in boxes that hadn’t been opened in 90 years. The research they did for this film has been used to actually fill in gaps of what’s known about the history of that time. 
This film is a must-see for all Greeks, Armenians, Jews, Turks, and everyone else who cares about history. It’s objective and it’s moving and it reminds you how unique diverse, cosmopolitan cities like New York and London actually are and how fragile they can be.
Go see it. At the Quad on W 13th and 6th. Buy tickets early here.

The movie Smyrna was reviewed last week in the NY Times (here) and will be the focus of special upcoming events (Facebook event is here). The filmmaker, Maria Iliou, and her team found footage of the city burning and in its prime that no one knew existed, in boxes that hadn’t been opened in 90 years. The research they did for this film has been used to actually fill in gaps of what’s known about the history of that time. 

This film is a must-see for all Greeks, Armenians, Jews, Turks, and everyone else who cares about history. It’s objective and it’s moving and it reminds you how unique diverse, cosmopolitan cities like New York and London actually are and how fragile they can be.

Go see it. At the Quad on W 13th and 6th. Buy tickets early here.

Restitution claims and virally distributed content

I had my wallet pickpocketed in December at the Union Square Holiday Market alongside five other small 20-something brunettes who had iPhones snatched, and when I asked the cop whether I’d be financially reimbursed for my claims if they caught the guys, he said, “No, we’ll just arrest them.” The Restitution law suggests that that defendant owes me the money he stole and the cost of everything in my wallet. And my wallet.

Restitution was discussed even though the prevailing view is that technically it isn’t considered part of punishment. Its purpose is to “make the victim whole,” as the legal phrase goes. “Simply put, an innocent victim should not suffer financial losses from a crime — the defendant should make good on those losses,” Cassell said.

That quote’s from a dark article in this week’s NYTimes Magazine called “How Much Can Restitution Help Victims of Child Pornography?”, clearly an offensively more disturbing crime than a stolen wallet. The questions around restitution, how it’s implemented and how it can be with virally distributed content make it worth a read.

The story follows two girls who are victims of rape and subjects of child pornography, the acts done, filmed and distributed by father and uncle, respectively. Now, they’re getting paid back via restitution for their “financial losses” - the cost of psychiatric care, lost income and legal costs. All people who are caught in possession of child pornography faced jail time, and those in possession of these girls’ images, for the first time in child pornography suits, face restitution claims.

This article is dark, and I usually find dark narrative nonfiction a little too sensationalist, like the last article in People Magazine sensationalist where you think “Why am I reading about this one freak murder, it’s scaring me for no reason,” or “Why did I just watch that video of the McDonalds guy hitting a drunk customer with a mop handle, I feel gross for no reason,” but this one’s got some questions worth exploring. Restitution’s used, I gather, pretty widely: bank robberies, mortgage fraud, not paying taxes…Peregrine founder and resident dipshit Russell Wasendorf will pay restitution upwards of $200 million to the clients he stole from over the past 20 years. But it seems there’s been nothing as vague as loss incurred by emotional and psychological damage, especially by the recipients, owners of illegal online content, versus the primary distributor himself. Ultimately, though, if the question is, are you, by owning and perpetuating the availability of a child’s image provided against her will and/or far before her ability to consent, using a global online network, are you actively contributing to her trauma that will add to her financial losses in the form of psychiatric care? I say yes. But in the anonymous world of the internet, many men probably don’t imagine these girls as real people who have been psychologically harmed by the images that are giving them pleasure. And that’s a weird thing about the Internet. Reification of people. We don’t think about the systems in place that got our tube of toothpaste made, packaged, and put on that shelf at Walgreens to buy. On a sicker realm, the increasing distribution of images discourages questions about how that girl got there to turn you on in the first place. It explains why the number of defendants sentenced in federal court for child pornography offenses increased 30 fold in under 20 years, from 61 in 1994 to 1,880 in 2011. And, I think, makes an even stronger case for slapping hearty restitution on as punishment.

Read the article! It’s good.

Harry Styles - Margaret Thatcher called, she wants her hair back.
(my first gif!)

Harry Styles - Margaret Thatcher called, she wants her hair back.

(my first gif!)

What is the issue here? 

“It’s a whole process giving worth to every moment of your day. I’m seeing things, I’ve interviewed people, hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people over many years. By saving it i’m just not being like a collector of stuff, I’m a documentarian of what it is that I do, who I know, what I see.

“So, this stuff is never dead. Because stories never die. Stories are never over. This is the origins of an article.”

-Gay Talese, as interviewed in Notes from Underground: Gay Talese’s Office.

futurejournalismproject:

wnyc:

In the newest Vogue. Greatest correction ever? (h/t buzzfeed)
-Jody, BL Show-

FJP: Corrections are beautiful things.

futurejournalismproject:

wnyc:

In the newest Vogue. Greatest correction ever? (h/t buzzfeed)

-Jody, BL Show-

FJP: Corrections are beautiful things.

A dynamic Barry McGee mural has spread across the 96x67 foot wall of Mark Morris Dance Center over the past two weeks. Been watching its growth from my front stoop. It’s called “Untitled 2012” and was commissioned by Vanity Fair in partnership with Cadillac (via NYT). Something tells me Barclays has a hand in this, but as usual, I am not offended by the yet-to-be-seen effects of our neighborhood’s new brown beast. So far all it’s brought me is new art, cheap basketball tickets and a vague promise of Beyonce live. When it opens, maybe it’ll bring me horrendous rush hour but I’ll wait till my face is smushed against the 3 train door to pass that kinda judgment.

Deciphering tags: McGee is AKA Robert Pimple, and AKA Ray Fong, and AKA Lydia Fong. What’s DFW? Not our DFW. It’s “Down For Whatever,” a book by…one of them. The tags are literal & self-promoting. But it’s not a white wall, nor is it a Cadillac logo, and for that I am grateful.

More on McPimpfong hereMore on the mural here, via ArrestedMotion. 

Emotional Resilience

The Rise of the Needy Man
Jezebel

“Men, writes Matlack, are filled with yearning: to talk, to be understood, to be accepted. Men, he suggests, have more emotional depth than we give them credit for having. What he doesn’t say is that guys today have so much less emotional resilience than we need them to possess.”

- Hugo Schwyzer

In my experience, many men (mostly American men, straight men) can’t handle feeling big things. This is a vast generalization but I’m going for it: they avoid it if they’re single and they cling to the women they know will help them through it if they’re not.

What conditions them to be less emotionally resilient?

There’s the obvious: Men are expected to be professionally successful financial providers to their families. They’re conditioned to exude strength, power, lack of weakness, blah blah.

Then there’s the community aspect: in some ways, women get to feel camraderie around the fact that they’re the societally disempowered sex – it gives them a community for “gender and women’s studies,” for a “women’s lib” movement. Like there’s no “caucasian studies,” there’s no “gender and men’s studies,” but the latter could be useful, as no movement to connect under that doesn’t have tainted connotations, like fraternities, may retard their emotional maturity. Many therapists say men’s groups are good for men, encouraging them to use each other to parce through their feelings instead of leaning so hard and dependently on the women in their lives.

There’s the biological, that women have fluctuating hormones. Then there’s the psychological effect of biological realities. What about this: women gutturally scream when they give birth. It is a major life event in which they’re expected to show extreme emotion, to hold back none, to give over all control of their own body to the development and creation of their child. Men just don’t ever have that built in excuse in life to emote like that.

Many men I’ve met have a far less developed ability to pinpoint, accept, translate, discuss and work through big feelings like the women in my life. That can be exasperating. Many, I think, are inspired (if quietly) by a woman’s ability to be emotionally available and accepting of hearing, talking, listening to feelings. Many need permission to explore their own feelings, and many think they’ll only receive that from a gender that doesn’t see weakness as a weakness.